OT: Roo's Miracle...A TPB's Community Thread Of Unity and Support

[Boltsfan70]

Sending positive mojo my heart breaks for you

[blueman]

I hope you find some solace, some balm for your heart. Thoughts and prayers to you.

[northerner]

so sorry to hear about your loss.

that is a great pic btw. looks like you guys had a great time at the falcons game.

[QuiteFrankly]

There are no words of course but hopefully you being able to share your story will help you in some way. As a parent I have always had some deep thought in the back of my mind about what if one if my kids passed. So it has to be something that nobody can really imagine because its just hard to make sense of such bad luck you could say.

I am not a religious person. But my thoughts are hoping you will find some peace eventually.

I like the pic. So great that you got to take both of your boys to a game. That had to be special and a memory you will always have. You are a good Dad.

Condolences.

[Boltjolt]

My deepest condolences to you FoutsFan. Can't imagine the pain from losing two Sons.
Man you must never know what someone is going thru. Takes strength to get thru such tragity and hope in the months since you have been able to mind some sort of peace.

Glad this place helps you cope and get away from the thoughts even if it cant be the most pleasant sometimes, but we are here for you!

[Budsman]

As a father of two I can feel your pain and it is scary to think how deep that is. I am struggling to cope with the suicide of my father which staggered me but the amount of pain and loss you’re going through is on a whole different level brother.

Suicide is so difficult and so painful on those who are left living. I know it sounds silly but I listened to an audio book that helped
me with my grief and how to process it it’s called “It’s ok that you’re not OK” by Megan Devine. I recommend the Audio book because it’s read by her and it hits the way it’s supposed to.

Tons of Mojo my man and I’m so sorry you have to go through that loss.

[FoutsFan]

As a father of two I can feel your pain and it is scary to think how deep that is. I am struggling to cope with the suicide of my father which staggered me but the amount of pain and loss you’re going through is on a whole different level brother.

Suicide is so difficult and so painful on those who are left living. I know it sounds silly but I listened to an audio book that helped
me with my grief and how to process it it’s called “It’s ok that you’re not OK” by Megan Devine. I recommend the Audio book because it’s read by her and it hits the way it’s supposed to.

Tons of Mojo my man and I’m so sorry you have to go through that loss.

I am sorry for your loss. One of the things I have learned in grief counseling is that there is no loss greater that anyone else. Everyone's loos is personal to them and affects them differently. My boys loss to me is different than my wife's, even though they were our boys. I have heard of that book and will look into it. I have spent my time so far with the Bible and prayer, God has been very good to me and my family. Matthew 5:4 "Blessed are those who mourn, For they shall be comforted." We have been blessed and comforted on a level that I cannot begin to articulate.

I will keep you in my prayers.

[jox g]

Before I get into details, I want to let everyone know I spoke with Fleet before and made sure I had his blessing before I posted this.

Below is a photo of myself and my 2 boys from the Falcons Chargers game last year. My youngest son Isaac is the one in the middle. He was 17 at that time. He had severe psoriatic arthritis. By the time he reached 17 he had the body of an 85-year-old arthritic man. In late 22 he was diagnosed with an aggressive brain tumor. He suffered from the joint pain for may years but his pain from the tumor was very intense. On February 17^th this year he took his life, no notes or anything. This was devastating to me and my family. We knew he was suffering but it still took us by surprise, he never gave us any problems for anything, until he did, and there was no coming back from it.

My oldest son Tommy, on the right, was a second Lieutenant in the Army. He suffered from severe PTSD from his time serving. The Army told him that if he were to get any help he would be either medically discharged or at best his career would be over and he would just stay where he was now, never advancing. On the one month anniversary (Friday March 17^th) of Isaac passing Tommy took his life. He left some notes and journals that told us about his struggles. He said that Isaac’s passing basically pushed him over the edge and he could not get help without the Army finding out. Indeed, when my wife and I were going to counseling we found a retired military guy who was willing to meet with Tommy off the record and bill me instead of Tommy, he said no, the army will find out.
They say no parent should have to bury their child, this is true. No parent should have to see their child in that situation. I was the one to find my 17-year-old, this is a trauma that no parent should have to see. For months this was the image that I saw every time I closed my eyes. Tommy was not home and we could not find him all evening until the cops found him later that night. If you can please keep my family in your prayers and/or send mojo our way. This has been the most difficult year of my life. If it were not for my faith in God, my life would be significantly different with how we are dealing with this. I have asked God to blur the image of my son when I found him, I still see that image, but he has been faithful and I no longer see my son with any detail. Dealing with the Army has been traumatic in of itself and a story for a different time.
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Thank you for letting me post this and for any thoughts and prayers. Putting this here and talking about it is helping me get through this situation. Sorry to be a downer and putting a heavy heart on the Bolt family here I just needed to keep processing this to heal.





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Process Therapy Institute in in San Jose, CA. They helped me overcome my COMPLEX PTSD from childhood. It only took 5 months of going every week on Zoom. My wife says it's been the best year of our 23 years of marriage! My 20 yo daughter said, "I dunno it's your new church or your therapy but you are different (in a good good way) In Matthew 4:23, Jesus came to preach AND HEAL. This is the healing. Julia Chaffin is a Christian and works there. She helped me but any of them using Family Systems (therapy style is very effective) will do! God bless.

Also, feel free to read and put this up in your home (true stories from WW1 and more) for protection.https://sogreatlyoved.blog/2018/02/2...of-protection/
Only works for believers. When I had Covid symptoms or pains, I would hold the body part that was in pain while praying this prayer, illnesses never progressed. I healed fast.

[FoutsFan]

Process Therapy Institute in in San Jose, CA. They helped me overcome my COMPLEX PTSD from childhood. It only took 5 months of going every week on Zoom. My wife says it's been the best year of our 23 years of marriage! My 20 yo daughter said, "I dunno it's your new church or your therapy but you are different (in a good good way) In Matthew 4:23, Jesus came to preach AND HEAL. This is the healing. Julia Chaffin is a Christian and works there. She helped me but any of them using Family Systems (therapy style is very effective) will do! God bless.

Also, feel free to read and put this up in your home (true stories from WW1 and more) for protection.https://sogreatlyoved.blog/2018/02/2...of-protection/
Only works for believers. When I had Covid symptoms or pains, I would hold the body part that was in pain while praying this prayer, illnesses never progressed. I healed fast.

I am glad for you. Keep the faith, I’ll pray for you.

[Stinky Wizzleteats+]

Prayers and mojo on the way!

[La Costa Boy]

Rather than pray for "Fouts Fan" could I at least know you and your wife's first names? I will gladly add you to my prayers.

[Midwestbolt]

My sincere condolences. Sending a prayer to you from the midwest tonight.